I'm embracing my inner old lady these days.
I have always been totally unafraid to say what I think and mean what I say, but these days I hold back even less. Life is most definitely too short to mince words and pussyfoot around.
Were off to to do the final sorting of Mum's bungalow today. Happily, my grandson is coming with his removals van to take all the things that we have got ready for him. Just having a grandson with his own removals company proves that I'm an old lady. 😄
The next step will be to have it valued as it is now, and then get it re-decorated, re-carpeted and fit a new kitchen. Hopefully, if everything goes to plan, there is now some light at the end of the tunnel with all this.
Now it's time for a coffee.
Sue xx
< chuckle > I may be an old(er) lady (with a bad back currently) on the outside but inside, I am just me, neither old not young, just me. Age isn't defining me, I won't let it! :-) xx
ReplyDeleteNope we can't let age define us, relish every moment (as you do) and sieze the day. Sorry to hear about your back, I hope it improves soon.
DeleteAbsolutely. Make the most of everything. xx
DeleteYes!!
DeleteI'm quite pleased I've reached an age where I'm happy to say inappropriate things ;)
ReplyDeleteThere's got to be some fun amongst all the aches, pains and sound effects. ;-)
DeleteGlad to hear that there is light at the end of the tunnel ✨️
ReplyDeleteHopefully yes. The bungalow is now virtually cleared, it's such a weight off our minds as next doors was broken into and everything trashed when the 'other Joan' moved into a nursing home and then died.
DeleteI have been direct all my life but rarely deliberately rude. People don't seem to care about that today as they are often nasty especially online. It is good you have help clearing your mum's home. I hope that and the renovation go smoothly.
ReplyDeleteI am never deliberately rude, unless someone is rude to me first then I have no qualms whatsoever.
DeleteSafe travels, and hopes for a speedy sale of the property
ReplyDeleteIt will be a while before it sells, seemingly the average time for a sale to go through (and that's once the work is all finished) is 6-8 months in the UK at the moment. It took us 18 months for the purchase of next door to go through.
DeleteWe could do with much more direct talk. It doesn't have to be rude, just to the point. Like many people I'm tired of waffle and weasel words.
ReplyDeleteAside from the practical and physical elements, the bungalow work must be an emotional experience. I hope it goes as smoothly as it can.
Yes, I do like it when people are straight to the point and honest with it. 'Waffle and weasel words' ... a brilliant description. I
Deletet's emotional yes, but in the back of my mind is how much more emotional it would have been to have had to do all this after Mum had died, as we had to do with Alan's Mum's house. This way we can keep her involved and get her blessing on all that we do.
I can't imagine ever wanting to go to bed at 8:00 p.m.! No matter how old I might be! I am a night owl!
ReplyDeleteGood luck with sorting out your mother's home. Having a grandson with his own removal van is a blessing!
No, the earliest that I have been to bed was 9.15pm one night recently, but I was wide awake by 4.30 am ... so that backfired on me!! It really is, he worked so hard yesterday with Alan's help.
DeleteI am not rude, but at times I say my piece. The one occasion I buttoned my lip is the one occasion I should have really let loose and I regret it still.
ReplyDeleteGlad you are getting your mum's property sorted out to go on the market.
It's frustrating when you know that you really should have spoken out, or called someone out for something that they said isn't it, and those 'swallowed words' really stay with you.
DeleteGood luck with the emptying and selling of your Mum's house!
ReplyDeleteI'm not afraid to say what I think but doing so rarely changes the opinions of a racist, sexist, homophobic knuckle-dragger so I just tell them that I don't agree with them and walk away. xxx
Thank you.
DeleteIt doesn't change their opinions at all, but hopefully just saying that you don't agree, or as I do, ask them to explain over and over and over and then saying 'that makes no sense', at least makes them think a bit later on. With some folk though there's just no getting through is there.
I rarely hold back nowadays but I try not to be outright rude. I won’t tolerate ageism, racism or misogyny in Amy conversation and May the good lord help anyone who dares to call me elderly! I am an older person living the best life I can manage and give a good proportion of time to helping others through volunteering. Alis volat propriis -the older I get, the truer this becomes! Catriona
ReplyDeleteYes, I'd rather have 'older' than elderly. I had to look up 'Alis volat propriis' as I'd never heard that one before. Seemingly it has been the motto for the state or Oregon since 1987. ('She flies with her own wings' ... for anyone else that is wondering.
DeleteI think I probably used to be more direct than I am now.........think and probably.....hmmmm that's not being very direct is it? 😉 Somehow I need to get some self belief back, put on big girls pants etc!
ReplyDeleteGlad things are progressing for your Mum's house sort out.
Alison in Wales x
Yep, I think you probably should ;-)
DeleteThanks Alison. xx
I'm currently cleaning out my parents home (dad still lives there). My mom was "collected" a lot of things. I have been cheering you on from here as you've readied your Mum's house. It's a lot of work. It has started me on the road of clearing out things from my home now so that my children don't have to someday. You have been very inspiring to me. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI am doing exactly the same as you, every time I come home from doing a specific area at Mum's I find myself coming home and doing the same in mine, especially if the bin men are coming in the next couple of days.
DeleteGood luck with the renovations and I hope all goes well with selling your Mum's house quickly 🙏
ReplyDeleteWe're getting valuations done on Thursday by four different estate agents, both as it is now and what it would be worth with the work done to it, to see if it's worth us doing anything before we progress.
DeleteI hope that all goes smoothly and you get the house sold quickly.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.
Thank you, it won't be a quick job as property is taking an average of 6-8 months to sell. Hopefully because of the type of property it is someone will want/need it quickly.
DeleteI thoroughly agree - there's no need to be outright rude, but I won't accept homophobic, racist, sexist comments, from anyone. And I won't back down on that, because som any of the people they are demeaning can't stand up for themselves, so it's up to me to do so.
ReplyDeleteI am sure you're aching during this clearing-out process. So many memories, so much "stuff". I found I didn't grieve fully until it was all done and I could "draw a line" under it. Your English system of linked sales makes things so drawn-out and time consuming. In NZ you get an offer, sometimes it's conditional, but mostly straightforward, and then it becomes final upon Settlement which is usually 6 weeks later. If it was an unconditional offer, the purchaser is committed once the first offer is countersigned, and it almost never falls over. SO easy. I hope you have a straightforward sale.
I think doing sit while Mum is still with us and not after her death is making it slightly easier, and of course will lessen the burden for us later. All the things that I know hold a special place in her heart as now with her at the care home. I really don't have any qualms at all about letting things go, I struggle more not to be too ruthless.
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