I received the comment below last night, but didn't see it until this morning. At first I didn't understand why the person had commented on one of my old posts, but it only took Googling Tania to realise that this brings up a post of mine that she was mentioned in when she started her YouTube channel.
I'll let you read it before I say anything else -
Anonymous28 July 2025 at 18:22
It seems that Tania of Living on a UK state pension has closed her you tube channel. It sounds like she was being harassed terribly via comments. I don't know why people feel the need to be so cruel. I thought her channel was fantastic and I really will miss it. I was particularly disappointed that I wasn't able to send her a comment letting her know how much she will be missed. Anyone know how to get in touch with her?
Perhaps she doesn't want anyone getting in touch with her for the moment or for the future. Her videos are all still there but turned to private, as is her right to do so.
Now, hopefully this is all innocent, but it was sent as an Anonymous comment when I specifically ask for ... at the very least ... a name to be added at the end if you have to comment anonymously due to technical issues of any kind. It is also someone 'chasing' a vlogger who has decided for her own reasons to stop for a while or for good, and is not allowing comments on her last video. The one in which she says why she is stopping and says goodbye.
Now I am definitely NOT trying to embarrass the Anonymous commenter if it is all innocent, but I would like people to have a little think about the blogs and vlogs that they read and watch. Someone is sharing parts of their life with you because they choose to do so. They ask little of you other than friendly words and a nice community and it is completely within their right to stop sharing at any point, especially if, as in Tania's case, someone starts to wear them down with negative and hurtful comments.
This is odd as I went to look at Tania's you tube thingy and found she posted just recently about blackberry jam!
ReplyDeleteYes, she said on her last video, the one where she walking the dog and explaining why she is closing the channel down for now, that she had some videos already filmed that she would be putting up this week. She has disabled the comments though.
DeleteOh, right, I'm afraid I've rarely watched any youtubers recently - tends to be a winter occupation, so hadn't watched tania all the time and didn't hang around to watch the three posts that are still there.
DeleteI get quite frustrated with bloggers who stop and start and take offence although that's my problem not theirs as they are free to do whatever.
I don't mind people that suddenly stop, but it's nice to have a bit of a heads up as to why. Even without that though, I wouldn't chase them around online trying to communicate. It starts looking a bit stalker-ish. 🤔
DeleteI agree with you about commenting and also about bloggers/vloggers stopping when they wish. I sometimes have to comment as anonymous and I can’t seem to change it. I read a few blogs and try always to be positive when I comment. My late Yorkshire father in law used to say “If in doubt, say nowt” and I think that’s sound advice. Catriona
ReplyDeleteYour father in law's advice is very good. Yes, you comment as Anonymous Catriona but you ALWAYS sign your name and that is very appreciated.
DeleteYes, I too am an anonymous commenter who signs my name. Agree with all the above. It's a privilege to share parts of bloggers/vloggers lives, interests, thoughts and feelings and we have to expect that for whatever reason from time to time writers will pull the plug - their choice to make.
ReplyDeleteAlison in Devon x
Yes, exactly that Alison. Thank you for always signing off your comments. ❤️
DeleteWell said, Sue.
ReplyDeleteThank you. 🙂 x
DeleteI was really sad to see Tania has had a terrible time with commenters. I didn't see the actual comments at the time but I know the rough gist. Someone asked me if I had her details so they could check on her. I do hope that was an innocent question but you never know. When you put yourself up for public viewing you do have to have a thick skin. For some reason these trolls seem to find and zone in on vloggers who are kind hearted and try to respond to them or reason with them. I just delete and block them as does Frugal Queen and don't give them a second thought. Ali xxx
ReplyDeleteI always hope these questions are innocent, but you never know do you. You and Jane do exactly the right thing. Hopefully Allie will pick up on this way of dealing with any nastiness too. 😀
DeleteI watch a few You Tube channels. There's been one vlogger in particular who's had various rants about her fellow vloggers in an unpleasant way. Not nice! Old enough to know better!
ReplyDeleteSorry, not anonymous - It's mrs lh here. No idea why it's anonymous.
DeleteDefinitely old enough to know better. 🙂
DeleteThanks for coming back to leave your name, it just shows how easy it is to be polite. ❤️xx
DeleteI watched a video last week in which some of the frugal channels that i watch were very nastily slated. Appalling behaviour from a fellow vlogger. The video has since been removed, but sadly the damage has already been done.
DeleteA blog or Youtube channel is a individual's choice to stop, start or share. It is so sad and uncalled-for when people resort to that unpleasantness/nastiness. Would they say such things to the person's face? It is one of the worst things about the internet that people have anonymity and think they can get away with such behaviour. On the whole, I would hope that the majority of people who comment are supportive and kind.
ReplyDeleteIt makes sense to be careful with contact details - you never know whether someone may have an ulterior motive.
Best wishes
Ellie
The vast majority of people that comment on blogs and YouTube videos are really kind and want to do nothing but support the person they are communicating with. But sometimes fifty lovely comments can be really overshadowed by one that cuts to the quick and intimidates you. As Ali says you need to have a thick skin these days to put yourself out there online. And even those with a thick skin can have sad days where a wrong remark can really hurt.
DeleteI have read all the comments. It was me who posted about Tania and wondering how to get in touch with her. I can assure you I had no ulterior motive other than to wish her well and thank her for her videos which she obviously had put so much effort into. I feel very badly for her that "trolls" caused her so much upset that she had to quit her channel. I really didn't think to sign my name but I will in future. Of course, I would respect her right to privacy ...it truly was an innocent wish to perhaps lift her spirits by letting her know how much I enjoyed her videos. I appreciate all the feedback and will be respectful in future by leaving my name.
ReplyDeleteMarilyn S
Thank you for getting in touch. ❤️
DeleteIt is a relief to know that your request was an innocent one. However, I imagine that the best thing for Tania at the moment is for her to be left alone, so she can contemplate her future on YouTube. It has to be on her own terms, with no influences that might make her sway in a direction that she does not want to go in.
Again, thank you, and thanks for leaving your name. 🙂
I agree, Sue and I wish her all the best. I enjoy your blog so much. Thank you!
DeleteMarilyn
❤️ xx
DeleteWell said, Sue, I liked Tania. I've had quite a few horrid and unnecessary comments on my blog, and I get why ... that doesn't give people the right to be so judgemental though. Usually I just bin them and don't comment - a few times though when I've been in the grip of depression they've really hurt. I've also sometimes had people saying they've googled services in my local area - I know they're probably trying to be helpful, but to me that comes across as a bit creepy and vaguely stalkerish.
ReplyDeleteIt very hard not to take everything personally isn't it, especially on 'down' days. People digging into the area where you live, even with the best intentions can definitely feel quite stalkerish. 😳
DeleteI don't think I ever watched that particular channel but it's sad that she feels she has to give it up because of a few nasty people. People disappear from blogging and you tube channels sometimes without saying anything and i do wonder sometimes why they decided to give up and if they are ok. From the sounds of it she just wants a complete break now. Glad you got a reply from the anonymous comment and that she sounded genuine.
ReplyDeleteI haven't watched much youtube, it takes way too much time, I like reading blogs. But I have problem with commenting on blogs. In some blogspot- blogs I can comment as I am, Ulvmor, but for some reason in most blogspot- blogs I cannot do that. I can't sign in - even when I'n signed in in other blogs in the same browser!
ReplyDeleteAnd being scatterbrainer me I sometimes forgot to sign my comment.
And being me I cannot understand why to be nasty and mean, when you just can be silent, no comments?
Ulvmor
Late to the party, sorry (busy day) I don't really follow any vloggers. But I do struggle with anonymous commenters - and appreciate friends like Catriona and Alison who sign off by name at the end of their comment . And whilst it is sad sometimes if a person stops publishing, that's entirely their choice. But really sad if they stop because of unpleasant trolling. You can hold a different opinion, but there is no need to be nasty. Here's to the kind people out there 👍❤️
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